If you’ve never experienced a Tarot reading, you may be wondering exactly what happens during a reading. A lot depends on the reader, but the most important thing to remember is that *you* are the one with the questions and so *your* understanding of what’s being said and how it’s being said is really the most important part of the process.

Usually, a Tarot reading begins with the reader greeting you and welcoming you into her space. She may say a prayer or blessing, or she may chat with you briefly about why you’re there. Some readers won’t ask you what your question is, but most will. Why? Because the cards can be read a zillion different ways depending on whether your question is about health, money, a relationship, your job, the guy next door with the cat–you name it. While you can “test” the psychic abilities of your reader by telling her to “guess” your question, is that really the best use of your time?

No. No, it is not. Trust me on this.

Once you have established your question, you’ll either be given the cards to shuffle or the reader will shuffle them. She may ask you to cut the cards as well. Once you are ready and/or have cut the cards, she’ll take them and lay them out in a spread of her choosing. I almost exclusively use the Celtic Cross spread, because I like to rock it old school. As she lays out the cards, she may read each card along the way OR wait until the end. I typically read along the way. If your reader is open to it, feel free to make this a conversation–any information you can provide may trigger an observation that makes the difference. Remember, she’s probably read hundreds–even thousands of card combinations, and the nuances are important in a reading. The more information you share, the more specific she can be.

That said, if she says something that’s completely wrong–also tell her that. This is YOUR reading and just because the cards are indicating X, if X is nowhere in your life, there’s still a reason those cards are showing up. Together you can decide what that reason is. For example, in one reading I had the Ten of Swords as the crossing card for the querent (fancy term for the person that you’re giving the reading to). I threw out all the usual reasons for this card, and got a steady stream of “nope, no, nah, not really, no idea, nope,” which made me feel very sad that I wasn’t connecting well! We get to the end of the reading, and the querent seemed dissatisfied, but I did my best and that’s all you can do, right? Well, then she shares that THE VERY NEXT DAY she was getting back surgery. If you’re familiar with the cards, the Ten of Swords shows a person with swords stuck into their back. Her guides were trying to tell her that they were here for her and knew what she had coming up.

At the end of the reading, you may be asked to draw a few extra cards for clarity–always do this. Your guides are so eager to connect with you, that sometimes they want to share more. Then, after you’ve asked any final questions and gotten responses…the reading ends! It’s really that simple.

Importantly, the best readings are ones that allow us to take positive steps forward, making our way along our path with joy and light. So even if there are difficult things that come up in a reading, they can ALWAYS be presented in a way that doesn’t scare you or make you feel bad. If you ever do feel “bad” or hurt after a reading, release it as not the right message for you. Your guides are here to share joy and hope–even in hard times. Always.